When we do not face reality, especially when we consider it 'unpleasant', we may tend to push our own suffering - by unconscious but active denial - on to other people and out into the world, seeing them as 'bad' or 'wrong'. Parents who cannot tolerate their own imperfections, will criticise and alienate their children for their imperfections; one partner, blind to his own faults will notice, criticise and condemn the very same imperfections in the other.
This is not about being satisfied with the mediocre or about condoning 'evil' or inhumanity; it is about facing reality and working with it rather than against it.
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